tragedy

Childbirth Drama

Childbirth: Isn’t that such a beautiful word? Shouldn’t it only be synonymous with joy and happiness? I for one think it should not be associated with anything but words such as: happy, congratulations, mabrook … so on and so forth.

But lately I’ve been increasingly reading horrific childbirth related stories: people dumping their babies in trashcans, others abandoning them in hospitals bathrooms, others under bridges, and sick people stealing other people’s babies!

What is exactly happening at maternity hospitals these days?

How on earth can someone wait for a baby to fully develop inside them, only to conclude that 9 month journey by dumping their offspring in a bin? And how on earth can someone have a heart to steal a little helpless baby from his mother’s caring bosom? That I would never know!

Another thing that really pissed me off even more is where the hell is the kidnapper’s neighbors’ from all that havoc? I mean if you live next to a woman who hasn’t had a child all her life and she suddenly has a baby in her arms, then shouldn’t you suspect that there’s something slightly wrong with that picture?

I just read that they captured the baby’s kidnappers after they left the poor thing in an alley in Al Wihdat. The little girl’s parents named her Liqa2 (that translates to reunion) after she was kidnapped hoping to reunite with her again soon and, thank God, they did.

Now here’s what really got me all wound up: the time a baby’s kidnapper has to serve in jail ranges from 3 months, to 3 years! ARE YOU F’N KIDDING ME?!?!

In some parts of the world, like Dubai for example, you get a nonnegotiable 4 year prison sentence for a worthless joint, BUT HERE, you can abduct a helpless baby from his family and get away with 2 years? Perhaps 6 months for good behavior!

Is it just me who thinks this sentence is unduly lenient?

On a seperate note, I wish everyone a happy 2008. May it bring happiness and fortune to all of you.

9 days … 9 miserable days

Click here to read an important update about the Minister of Health’s visit.

PLEASE READ THE UPDATE AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS POST.

PREAMBLE: This family tragedy you are about to read contains 100% accurate facts related to the family emergency I talked earlier about. This tragedy DID NOT take place in East Timor and NO, it DID NOT take place in Sierra Leone, but unfortunately, it took place in our sweet Amman, during the last two weeks, but above all, it happened to my beloved father.

THE ORDEAL

Day 1: On the afternoon of Sunday the 19th of August, 2007
My father left the house on some usual errands. He never came back that day and, surprisingly, his mobile was switched off. Although it’s unlike my dad to leave the house and not say where he’s going and turn off his mobile, my family thought he was sleeping over at one of his friend’s house and simply ran out of battery, so they didn’t really get worried and thought he’d call the next morning to inform the family where he was.

Day 2:
There’s still no sign of him and his mobile is still turned off. Again, although it’s unlike him, but we reassured ourselves that he’s probably at one of his friends’ spending a jolly good time.

Day 3:
There’s no sign of my dad whatsoever. We started calling all members of the family, all his friends and acquaintances, but no one knew where he was. We try to be positive and pray to God that he’ll show up the next day. Being in Dubai, I was unable to add any value, except give my family more reasons to worry by calling them every 10 minutes. We started getting worried.

Day 4:
Still, no sign of dad. We panic! My family informs the police. The police contacted all hospitals and ran a circulated search on his license plate number. The feeling of helplessness was killing me, but we kept lying to ourselves that he’s doing fine.

Five or six members of the family took turns in calling all Amman hospitals including Prince Hamza Hospital, which they called THREE TIMES. All hospitals assured us that no one with my father’s name was admitted recently.

Day 5:
Another day passes by with no progress. Dad’s mobile is still turned off. We went as far as to think that he got married to another woman and was spending his sweet honey moon in another country, because that’s what a desperate person would think to reassure himself that someone dear to him is doing fine.

Day 6:
Yet another day with empty hands. Our contacts at the border controls and at the airport assured us that my father did not leave the country. At this point, there was little room left for positive thinking. We started fearing the worst.

Day 7:
The fear of the worst intensified. Bad thoughts prevailed and we began to lose hope.

Day 8:
It’s been more than a week since dad left now. There’s no sign of him or his car and his mobile is still turned off! My cousin at the Air Force went beyond his duty and managed to convince his senior to fly a chopper and look for dad’s car in the forests and woods of Amman, but nothing happened. We lost all hope of finding him. I couldn’t eat, drink, sleep or work.

Day 9:
The police found dad’s car! It was found next to the Arab College [الكلية العربية], located in the Gardens Street, parked in a strange way, as if the driver left it in a hurry. It was hit from the left side and there were groceries in the back seat.

The doorman of the closest building to where the car was parked confirmed that an old man came out of the car and looked very sick and some college students took him to a hospital. He did not know which hospital he was transferred to. The Criminal Investigation guys arrived and took fingerprints and the doorman’s statement.

We contact all hospitals again, including Prince Hamza Hospital, as it is the closest public hospital to where dad’s car was found (people in Jordan tend to transfer sick strangers to public hospitals so they wouldn’t have to worry about payments). The operator at Prince Hamza Hospital guaranteed us that no one with my father’s name was admitted into the hospital.

Despite the operator’s assurance, my witty uncle went to that hospital at 10:30 pm of that day. He asked the receptionist if my father was admitted there and the receptionist, who’s also the operator, snapped at my uncle and his exact words were: (يا عمي دوشتونا بهالزملة! ما في ورانا غيركو؟ … يا أخي روحوا دوّروا عليه بمحل ثاني!). English translation: [We’ve had enough of you guys asking about this man. Do you think we have nothing better to do than answer your inquiries? Go look elsewhere!

My uncle demanded to see the register to which the receptionist refused, but my uncle insisted. To get rid of my persistent uncle, the receptionist hands him the register, my uncle flips a page or two back and, believe it or not, THERE IT WAS: my father’s name, written in a very clear and visible handwriting in the patient’s manifest/register, admitted on Sunday the 19th of August, the same day he left the house.

Yes my friends, you are not imagining things. He was admitted to the hospital which my family called FOUR different times and every single time they said NO, there’s no such patient!

I arrived to Amman the next day and needless to say, dad was in a pretty bad shape. He couldn’t move, couldn’t talk and he couldn’t recognize people at first.

THE HORRIFIC FACTS

Dad was driving his car when he became very ill and hit his car where it was found. He got out of his car feeling very dizzy and fell down. Some unknown students took him Prince Hamza Hospital, where he was diagnosed with high blood pressure.

Because the hospital is really bad and I can’t begin to explain how horrible it is, my dad ended up with a) a brain seizure, b) severe pneumonia, c) kidney malfunction and d) blood infection. All which he picked up and was caused by his stay at the Prince Hamza Butchery (that’s what we’re calling it now). The reason his mobile was turned off is because it was stolen, either by the people who transferred him, or most probably at the hospital.

Now let me tell you a little of how my dad was treated in that hospital:

  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: he was left without any clothes on, not even a patient’s robe, which most probably caused the acute pneumonia.
  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: he was left with no food or water, which caused bacteria to form inside his mouth.
  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: none of the hospital’s staff bothered him/herself to inform his family, or the police for that matter, although he had his wallet next to him, and of course all his money was stolen, but he had all his ID’s and friend’s business cards in it. It even had MY business card! Can you imagine how he felt waking up to find no one beside him for 9 days?
  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: he was not given his medication, instead, the nurse would leave his pills on the table next to him, but he couldn’t move God damnit! If it wasn’t for the kind-hearted patient next to him who took it upon himself to give dad his medication and feed him whenever he can, God knows what could’ve happened.
  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: he was left to rot, literally. They did not bathe or clean him even once, and you can never imagine the hygienic condition he was in.
  • For 9 days, 9 miserable days: they did not bother to change his position, which caused really severe bed sores on his buttocks.

We transferred him to a decent hospital the very next day, because we had to wait for the doctor’s release and an ambulance, which they refused to let us use or hire.

What’s even stranger than all that is when we went to the hospital the next day to transfer him, the doctors said he’s doing fine now and all he had was high blood pressure and minor convulsions, so you can take him home now. But after transferring him, the doctors told us he wouldn’t have made it if we took him home, simply because you can’t treat a brain seizure, acute pneumonia, a blood disease and a kidney malfunction at home!

The carelessness and the indifference we saw in the hospital are seriously fatal and without a doubt, a couple of more days at that hospital could’ve been the end of my father.

PRINCE HAMZA HOSPITAL

The Prince Hamza Hospital was only inaugurated last year by King Abdullah II and has cost the Jordanian government (tax payers, i.e, the Jordanian people) more than 67.6 million Jordan Dinars (close to 100 million $!).

The hospital is truly enormous and it looks wonderful from the outside but once you go inside, you’d feel like you’ve entered a ghost town to say the least. Large halls are empty and dirty and I assure you that you can’t find more than a couple of nurses in any of the large wards. The entire hospital is a smoking zone and the sight of patients smoking in their rooms is more than normal. All procedures there are done on papers. Not one computer can be found in the entire hospital and the one and only computer lies in front of the accountant.

POST-DRAMA ACTION

We are thinking of suing them, although people are advising us not to, because it’ll be to no avail and would only be a waste of time, effort and money, simply because we’ll be suing the government (Prince Hamza Hospital) to the government (the courts), but nevertheless, we will carry on with that.

We also called the local Watan FM radio station (100.3 FM) and one of sharp-tongued uncles complained live about the hospital’s carelessness which nearly got an old man killed, in addition to the physical, psychological and mental state my dad was in when we found him, and not mentioning the torment me and family went through during the past two weeks. The radio station then called the hospital’s deputy general manager, Abdel Hafith Kharabsheh, who admitted the hospital is short-staffed and that the staff there are doing their utmost best, which absolutely contradicts to what the Jordanian Minister of Health, Sa’eed Darwazeh, said during the hospital’s inaugural press conference on the 25th of June 2006 (Kindly refer to paragraph 5 of the cached article. The original doesn’t exist for some reason) where he denied that The Prince Hamza Hospital is undermanned and confirmed that the hospital has 159 doctors and 465 nurses, in addition to other 99 medical workers.

But what Mr. Kharabsheh knows very well is that the problem does not lie in the fact that he’s short-staffed, but in the fact that the current staff are absolutely incompetent. All what they had to do is call the man’s family or the police.

I called a close friend of mine at the Jordan Times and told her the tragedy, but, unfortunately, she thinks such tragic stories are unlikely to be carried in the paper.

AND FINALLY …

Although my heart bleeds for what happened to my dear father and to see him this weak and vulnerable, but at least his health condition is stable at the moment and can now recognize us and mumble a few unintelligible words every now and then.

This post will probably be the only platform for me to rant in case the lawsuit fails but I do hope that my voice will be heard somewhere, not just because such incidents should not go unpunished, especially that it happened to my father, but because some action, even if it was too little, can save other people’s lives, it can help eradicate the carelessness and apathy the Jordanian health system suffers from and more importantly … restore some of the lost value of the human life.


UPDATE - (September 6th, 2007)

Upon republishing the story in Addustour Daily, (Batir, I owe you my life), senior officials at the Ministry of Health contacted me yesterday and confirmed that the newly appointed Minister of Health, Dr. Salah Al Mawajdeh, sends his regards and is personally very concerned about this issue and has given direct orders to start an investigation lead by the Head of Internal Auditing Department at the Ministry of Health, Dr. Azmi Al Hadidi, who called me and visited my dad at the hospital yesterday (September 5th, 2007) and assured us that the investigation will prosecute those who have caused this ordeal.

Dr. Azmi Al Hadidi seemed to be more disturbed by this post and the online and printed media noise it has stirred (thanks for your supportive comments and all you wonderful people who republished the post), and even questioned my patriotism, and little does he know of my patriotism, (all with the presence of Qwaider, who came to visit at a perfect timing, not) nevertheless, Dr. Azmi promised that he won’t cut any slack and will do his best to try and identify those who have committed those grave mistakes on a medical and a managerial level.

We are hopeful that the investigation will lead to enhancing the reputation of The Prince Hamza Hospital and solving the roots of the problem, instead of just dumping it all on a poor scapegoat who barely makes 150 JD’s a month. I will keep you posted with the progress of the investigation.

My father is doing much better now and is slowly recovering, thanks to the professional medical care he is receiving at the Jordanian University Hospital where we transferred him afterwards and where doctors know exactly what they’re doing and nurses are more than happy to take that extra mile to insure the improvement of their patients’ health.

I also apologize for editing some comments some of you left here, but kindly take into consideration that I am not trying to cause an uproar here and am trying to get my voice heard, and it did, thanks to all of you. Therefore I would appreciate it if no profanities were used, as it would affect the progress of the ongoing investigation, in addition to the fact that this post has been forwarded by many people to HM King Abdullah II, HM Queen Rania and HH Prince Hamzah. So please, please, please, keep it clean.

I, unfortunately, had to travel back to Dubai after extending my unpaid leave, because life is tough and now it’s getting tougher, and now we’re in a situation where money is of utmost importance. So you who claim that you’re my friend, although I don’t have to explain myself and my situation to you, but do you think I’d rather leave my dear father in such a circumstance if I didn’t have to? However, my older brother is there and so is the rest of my family who are all attending to my dad.

Thank you all for your deepest concern and for those who were even ready to donate money to start a fund for the lawsuit fees.

Jordanian Goes Through Hell in New York

After years of being taunted as “bin Laden” and “terrorist” at school, Osama Al-Najjar attempted suicide last July at the age of 15.

 

 

Now 16, he is an extreme example of the difficulties facing some Arabs in New York, the city hit hardest by the attacks of September 11, 2001.

 

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Romeo and Juliette: The Not-So-Romantic Arabic Version

Dear to whom it may not concern …

The Western version of Shakespeare’s tragedy about the two star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliette, is quite known to the whole world.

The Western Version: Juliette, the daughter of Lord Capulet, falls in love with Romeo, Son of Lord Montague. The two feuding families would never allow the marriage, and the events ended in the tragic loss of both, Romeo and Juliette. Very sad, yet romantic.

The controversial Arabic version: A 17-year-old Iraqi Yazeedi girl, Dua’ Khalil Aswad (دعاء خليل أسود) falls in love with a Sunni young man, and converts to Islam. Her family finds out, drag her into the middle of the street and stone her to death! Very sad, prosaic and not so romantic!

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Good and Bad News from Jordan!!

This is not an attempt to compete with ghrab el bain, aka bad news herald, aka Mohanned!

 

 

Just a bunch of news I came across this morning while reading a couple of dailies:

 

 

1- 24-year-old Lina Ejeilat (not sure if she’s the same Lina the blogger, TBC) and 21-year-old Sara Al Badri have both won the BBC’s News Maker competition, granting them the opportunity to broadcast to over 42 million BBC listeners around the world. Read the BBC story here. Mabrook! It’s a nice!

 

 

2- if you wake up one day in Al Azraq with one kidney, there’s a committee now that you can go and whine to! Itsa VERY nice!

 

 

3- A woman in Jordan poisoned her husband to death, but felt he didn’t get what he really deserves, so she chops him up in pieces, but that wasn’t enough … so she burns him. That’s because, according to her, he used to force her to sell her body. Poor girl couldn’t handle the prostitution, yet the next day after killing him in cold-blood, she asks her lover to help her get rid of the burnt body! Then they go to make a sexy time … Itsa a very nice too! NOT!